Wisemind

When we are conflicted about making a decision, we often find two distinct yet equally vital players: the head and the heart.

The head (the rational mind): analytical, logical, objective
The heart (the emotional mind): sensitive, reactive, passionate

Often it seems as though our head and heart are engaged in a fierce battle, pulling us in conflicting directions. Our head may advocate for one course of action, while our heart urges another.

So, which do we trust? Which one is true?

In truth, both are valid and indispensable. The head and heart are most effective when they are balanced together. While the heart allows us to fully embrace life, immersing ourselves in the present moment, the head equips us with the discernment to make pragmmatic decisions, guiding us to navigate life's complexities.

Without the guidance of the head, the heart may lose its bearings, adrift like a ship in a storm. However without the warmth of the heart, the head may become mechanical, detached from life's richness.

It's essential to honour both the head and the heart, striking a delicate balance between their needs and desires.

So the next time you feel conflicted between listening to your head vs heart, take time to hear them both out:

• What are the emotions coming up for you when you think about this dilemma?

• Why might you be holding these emotions?

• What do you need to feel okay/safe?

• What are some objective facts regarding this situation?

• What is in your control VS out of your control (aka need to let go of)?

• Have I given sufficient time and space so my emotions are not “hot” and reactive before making a decision?

• How do I want to feel about myself after making this decision?

If you balance the needs of both your emotions and reason, what would be a good middle-ground statement?

 “Let your head be the guide that directs your steps and your heart the companion to journey with”